-1 & 2-
-Making a Peaceful Home-
-A Home Focused on the Lord-
Let’s face it, homemaking can be overwhelming when we allow it. There are so many things to do and only a certain amount of time to do them. The laundry piles up, dishes get dirty, crumbs get on the floor, stains get on clothes and then you have no idea what to make for dinner. But, all of those things should never keep us from enjoying ourselves as homemakers. Our goal isn’t to have a perfect house and make it like a museum when you enter. Our goal is to make where we live a home that honors God and provides rest and safety for those who live there.
In the next few articles, I’m going to be talking about how to glorify God in your home by being a biblical homemaker.
Before we were married I would buy magazines and cut out images and paste them in a notebook of how I pictured our home one day. I started buying pieces of home décor and putting money aside specifically for items we would need for our home. As I came closer to being a wife, I noticed the atmosphere of other homes I visited and what made them feel so welcoming as soon as I walked in the door.
Fast forward to after Jason and I were married, we decided instead of purchasing a house right away, we decided to rent the upper level of a missionary couple’s home. This was a blessing to start out our marriage in, but it wasn’t our home. We weren’t allowed to paint the walls or add more holes in the walls to hang pictures, put new floor tile down or anything. It just didn’t feel like home sweet home, but it was our place for the time being. In those two years of renting, Jason and I learned a lot about what we wanted in a home and the things we should consider beforehand concerning the upkeep that our landlord mostly maintained. We also learned a lot about each other.
Being a homemaker you must wear many hats! Aside from working on this blog, my day fills up quickly! It all could easily become overwhelming if it feels more like chores that your parents used to make you do growing up or you can make your home a place that glorifies the Lord and is a peaceful escape for your family from the stressful world we live in.
First things first, I’ve learned that a home will never be perfect! There will always be crumbs, cobwebs, dust and late night/drive thru dinners on your last minute crazy days. All these little pop-ups should never make you feel like a failure at being a homemaker, a wife/mother or in giving God the glory. All of these things are only part of the picture of what really matters.
Here are the first two steps to keep in mind when being a homemaker.
1. Make your Home a Peaceful Home.
This took me my first two years of marriage to realize how important this step is.
I know there are times whenever my husband will call on his lunch break during a crazy day at work and as soon as I ask how his day is going I hear “I can’t wait to be home. I miss you and Maverick (our dog).” Those words reassure me that I am doing something right for our home. I love knowing Jason can come home to a home that is calm and not filled with distractions as soon as he walks in to the door. I believe not only should our home be peaceful just for us, but also for anyone who enters.
Here are some ideas to help keep a peaceful home:
We all have trials and issues we must face, but throwing them at our husband or anyone who comes into our home as soon as the open the door will turn the tension dial to 10. We all have our bad days, but making this into a habit isn’t showing love or respect. Jason can pretty much tell whenever I’ve had a good or bad day. We usually greet each other and if he sees something is wrong he usually will ask. I never toss it on him soon as he walks in the door. Choose what you think, say and do before they walk in your door.
-What makes your Home feel Comfortable to those Who Enter?
Ask your spouse or those living in your home and then try to do those things more often.
Jason loves to see Maverick looking for him out the window as he walks up the sidewalk and smelling dinner cooking as he opens the door. I try to do this as much as possible especially when I know he has had a stressful day.
– Be Cheerful.
There have been times whenever Jason has come home to seeing the house a mess, dishes piled up and crumbs on the counter and I know he would much rather see me smiling and happy to see him rather than ignoring him and paying attention to the mess as soon as he walks in the door. So don’t allow messes to keep you from a cheerful smile. A great pastor of ours said his mother had a saying that goes similar to this “If you want to see me stop on by, if you want to see my house make an appointment.”
2.Is your Home Focused on the Lord?
So easy it is to get our minds off focus from God. Especially with all the temptations we have today. They can sneak in on a magazine, a phone call, a letter, an email, an Internet search, on TV, and in our own thoughts. Below are some ways to keep your home focused on the Lord.
– Play Christian Music
We personally enjoy listening to old hymns or piano music with no words. This not only helps keep focused but also sets a calming atmosphere in your home.
– Study God’s Word
Make a place for you and your spouse or family member to read God’s word in the morning and evenings.
– Place Scripture around your Home
Write scripture to place around your home or find décor pieces with scripture as reminders as you walk through your home.