What makes you happy? I mean truly happy. Not something that you smile at and forget five minutes later. Or, is it the kind of happiness the Grinch had when he stole the Whoville’s Christmas? When we see someone else who is happy do we want to be happy for them or do we have a hint of envy in our eyes? For those of us who’ve experienced that hint of envy (myself definitely included), why do we have it to begin with? As Cruze writes in her book we live in a world today where we carry the Jones’ we are keeping up with around in our back pocket. With cell phones & social media apps, all these little connections are windows into the lives of other people. When we start to peek into those windows, we start to see everything the Jones’ recently purchased and how perfect it appears and how happy they seem and before you know it you start to question what is wrong with your own life and why you aren’t as happy. We trap ourselves in the comparison game like a fly in a Venus flytrap. What looks so appealing takes no time at all to crush the life out of us as debt surrounds us. The Comparison game has been around for years and the only “improvement” to this game is that now we don’t have to ride our cars or bikes past someone’s house before we see they bought something new and fancy. Now we can see a post on their facebook page in a matter of seconds. Before we know it we are being sucked into consumerism. One thing I have noticed with social media is that seemingly 98% of the time people want to brag and only put up the best picture. We see the picture that looks so amazing (thank you photo editors) and then we start to question why we aren’t like them and quickly we need to have or do what they are doing to achieve that same happiness. As Cruze puts it “When you get caught up in social media comparisons, you’re comparing yourself to make-believe and when you compare yourself to make-believe, your real life will never be good enough.” So we start to wonder why is it that we feel the need to compare ourselves to those we have hit the “accept friend” button for on our facebook page. If they truly are our “friends” why do we feel envious whenever we see something positive happening in their life. Life goes on and before we know it changes occur and we see people getting married, graduating, landing successful jobs, having children and then you start to see the new cars, trips and we start to ask ourselves “how could they afford that when they just did that or went there?” It starts to change our attitude and our relationship with the people to whom we are comparing ourselves. Cruze continues to say how once you take your focus off of them and put it back onto your own life you can start to turn things around with your life. The game of comparisons is a problem in our own making. The bottom line is, there is absolutely nothing we can do about the choices, blessings, misfortunes, and coincidences happening in the lives of those around us. As a Christian, I truly believe that if I can’t be content and thankful for what God has blessed my husband and I with, I seriously need to reevaluate the priorities and motivations in my own heart. You shouldn’t be afraid to disconnect yourself from social media and its influence in your life if it’s making you less content with who you are and how you live. Instead, a powerful antidote to consider would be the old tried and true advice to count your blessings and name them one by one and write them down. Whenever, you start feeling like what you have isn’t enough, remember this list and know there are others with much shorter lists.