Are you a Healthy or an Unhealthy Facebook User?
Some thoughts on Facebook, Responsibility and a Puppy
Recently, I was approached with a topic that has its roots in materialism, work and money. I was told by them that all they seem to do is work all the time and seem to be getting by paycheck to paycheck. I asked them why they started to feel this way and they said I just feel like people get things handed to them. They felt like they are constantly working long hours and the faster they make money the quicker it seems to disappear. I could tell they were very upset and frustrated. I started to talk to them about their finances and what they could to help save, and I was shocked at what I heard.
Today, I want to talk about Facebook, responsibility and puppies… and what they all have in common.
Before I got married I used to be the kind of person who would sign into Facebook and follow (with great interest) other people’s status updates and profiles. Quickly I found myself in a very unhealthy state of comparing my life to others. I saw what they had and I wanted it too. I knew this was becoming a huge red-flag in my life because I saw myself trying to live the life of other people I knew. I was looking to others on Facebook for guidance on how-to live rather than my Lord. It wasn’t until I got married that reality really started to kick in. I started to realize that I was getting caught up in something that if I didn’t soon change could end up destroying my marriage or even my life. I think Facebook is a great tool, if used correctly and not in an unhealthy way. This begs the question, “What is a healthy Facebook user?” I want to give some examples of a healthy Facebook user vs. an unhealthy Facebook user. Facebook can be a great source of media. I personally love using Facebook to find great coupon pages, name brand foods and product pages. I love to be in contact with people that I haven’t seen in years as well as pastors and friends from around the world. I love to see pictures of family and their children growing and I love seeing new recipes, ideas and inspirational quotes/stories that have been laid on someone’s heart to share. I didn’t used to be this kind of person. I used to be the unhealthy Facebook user that would get online just to compare my life to others. I saw my life becoming lonelier and unnecessarily competitive towards others. I didn’t realize just how severe it was getting until I took it to God and realized that I was missing out on the blessings that God had given me because I was fixated on the blessings that God had given to others. I wasn’t living my life and that scared me.
One of the bigger topics that was brought up with the conversation I mentioned earlier was Facebook. As I was talking to this person they kept bring up the word Facebook “I saw on Facebook so and so did this or they had that or they posted this and said that” and the entire time I was thinking “do you hear yourself right now?” I am so thankful that I was convicted about Facebook before I allowed it to rob any more of my life. I want to share with you some of the ways Facebook can really hinder your life if you are not careful. Here is a small list of topics to watch out for. If you feel like you or someone you love may be in this category, I would suggest that you either delete your Facebook or learn to stop comparing your life to someone else.
1. You go into debt because you see something on Facebook that someone has and you do not.
2. You become jealous of other people and their achievements.
3. You can’t go throughout your day without letting others know what you are doing and why.
4. You are trying to convince everyone else that you have a happy life filled with shiny, expensive things.
5. You post more than 1 Selfie a day.
6. You make family time a Facebook involvement.
7. You go through peoples profiles constantly to compare your life to theirs.
8. You start posting pictures of something you haven’t thought about in years and all of a sudden have to post it because you saw someone else’s pictures. If you don’t, everyone will know they are better than you.
9. You sign out of/close Facebook angry or upset.
I believe that if any of these categories sound familiar, it’s time to make a change before you end up messing up your life. Disable or Delete your Facebook page. Take time and ask God to change your heart about what you are seeing. Pray that God gives you a heart to see what he sees. Pray that you don’t see the materialism in people’s hearts, but rather that you see the hurt they’re trying to fill with that stuff. Pray that you don’t look in jealousy or anger at the blessings in other people’s lives. Pray that God shows you a new way to see just how blessed you are with what you have and not what you are lacking.
Tomorrow, I’m going to finish this post about Facebook, Responsibility and Puppies. Tomorrow, you all will get to meet our little puppy… Maverick.