Employment and the Stay-at-Home Wife
“Work willingly at whatever you do, as though you were working for the Lord rather than for people. Remember that the Lord will give you an inheritance as your reward, and that the Master you are serving is Christ.” – Colossians 3:23 & 24
Remember the days when anyone, young men especially, just out of High School could find a full time job capable of supporting a family? I don’t, but the 2 generations before me reminds me that that is how things used to be. I graduated high school less than a decade ago and I see most of us are all facing an economy where the working men and women are aggravated with the establishment in the USA. Have you asked yourself these questions or thought this in the past year?
> Why do I have to go to work today?
> I’m tired of working so hard to see able-bodied people my own age not working and leeching off of their parents and the government benefit programs.
> I wish I could stay home and not go to work.
> Why aren’t there any jobs?
> How are we supposed to pay to fix this? How can we afford that?
> Credit or Debit… or maybe Cash?
> If I could only be a stay at home mother…
I believe that we have all thought of questions like these sometime in our lives. It breaks my heart when I have to see people who are elderly or widowed have to work when they shouldn’t have to be. Even the mother who cries whenever she has to drop off her kids at the daycare because she would rather raise them at home but has to face dropping them off only to see them cry as she sneaks out the door quickly.
I was raised in a home where I had the honor of witnessing what a stay at home wife was and what a real working man was. Growing up I watched my my parents get divorced, and my grandparents and my father raised me. I watched and admired my grandmother and how she respected my grandfather. Although, she was the mother of my father I still saw how she respected him also because he worked day and night to provide for his children.
Growing up, I never saw my grandma as a lazy person or thought of her as someone who never worked. In fact, she was the hardest worker I’ve ever seen and still is today. She raised several children; including ones not her own and never did we have to worry about going hungry or looking dirty. We were always healthy and although we weren’t home-schooled, to this day I still think if my grandmother was young enough she would have. I learned more from her about life, love, surviving in hard times and being a wife than what any school could have taught me. Thanks to her I am able to be the stay at home wife I am today and I fully intend on teaching my children the importance of being a wife if God should bless me with a daughter some day. If I am blessed with no daughters then I will help other young women and pass on my knowledge like I am now.
Lazy at Home?
Society in general views the woman that stays home to take care of their home or to be a stay at home mom today as lazy and second-rate. It is sad and hurtful because those ideas, thoughts and words make the wife or stay at home mother feel degraded and inadequate when people inevitably ask “where do you work?” Once you say, I work from home they look at you kind of weird and then you pray they don’t ask “what do you do?” because then you know the look is coming…that look that everyone seems to give when they hear an adult say that they work from home. They automatically put you in the “lazy” group. It’s sad that a woman today is expected to have an answer that makes society happy. I don’t think that women should even be asked this question in the first place and I will go on to explain this further.
As mentioned in the introduction to our blog, we are not here to force religion or our beliefs on anyone. That being said, our faith is at the center of us and all of our decisions. Jason and I have always turned to God’s Word to find our answers and to secure our foundation and build our lives and our marriage. I want to take a look in my bible for an explanation as to why in my opinion our world is becoming more reliant on the government’s handouts. Additionally, I want to answer how it is possible for me to be a stay at home wife and not be a consumer of government aide.
There’s no question that I would be downright livid if I had to financially support someone to sit at home and play video games, abuse drugs/alcohol, look at porn, and the list goes on and on. I was looking in the Newspaper one day, and saw an advertisement for “Free Kittens” to be picked up at the Animal Shelter. I thought about it a bit with all the medicines, shots, procedures, food, shelter, etc… etc… and I came to the realization that there is no such thing as a free cat… Just as there are no free cats, there are no free government programs.
We can safely assume that someone has to pay for the people who choose to stay home, collect benefits they’ve never paid into and generally be lazy and make nothing of themselves. The question we all want to know is: WHY?
Quite frankly, as a stay at home wife I am getting tired of automatically being grouped in the category of “ignorant, lazy people that choose to stay home and have nothing to show for themselves or their families”. When did a woman wanting to stay home and take care of her home and children suddenly be frowned upon? Here’s a hint… it’s about the time Credit became easy to obtain and we as American’s decided to spend more than 1 Salary could afford.
Ask your grandparents how many Credit Cards they have and how much debt they have on them. If they lived through or just after the Great Depression, their answer may just surprise you. We should not be made to feel guilty because we want to stay home and do as God commanded us to do. But what is even sadder is those who deserve to stay home and can not because others choose poorly.
In our home we have order and that is something that does not exist in this world today. The order we follow is God, Husband & Wife, Children and then everyone else. My husband and I follow God’s authority to the best of our abilities. My husband is the leader of our home and I honor and respect him with love. If you don’t have order you will have chaos…a collapse. So how can order in a marriage be applied to our society? Check out part 2 to “Employment & the Stay At Home Woman”.